This day for some can be sad if you are alone or you may just not want to get into the big commercialism of the day. This week I have heard people say “we don’t celebrate Valentines Day” or “I totally forgot about it” and I totally understand. I dread this day a little but now that it is here I have found a new perspective.
It is a wonderful opportunity for me to tell my children how much I love them. This morning at breakfast we named three things we loved and admired about each other. Yes amusingly even brothers and sisters can think of something. I did think afterwards that after many pauses and lots of time thinking I could have limited this to one thing but we got there in the end.
Tonight I am having dinner with my family – my parents, sister, brother-in-law and children. They keep this time free because they don’t want me to be alone tonight. But guess what? I am not alone and today I don’t feel alone. I miss my husband but I am so grateful to be enjoying dinner with the people I love the most in this world. I even have a delicious lamb bone to say we love him to our gorgeous dog, Happy
At the supermarket today the man in front of me was buying a bunch of flowers. At this moment I felt my heart ache but it was not with jealousy or sadness it was with admiration that he was going to express how he feels to someone. As I have learnt telling people you love them can come in many different forms. Give your dog a bone, smile at a stranger, hug your friends, cook a delicious meal for someone, or as I have done prepare a delicious afternoon tea for your children with all of their favourites things.
Love should be natural and easy with no need for criticism, judgement, jealousy, blame or any other toxic behaviour. This is not the day for over the top heroics just simply giving to others and yourself.
Love comes in abundance to those who have it in abundance in their hearts.